Loving someone incapable of Loving again

People who have been beat down by past relationships find it hard to love again, not thoroughly. They hold onto pieces of a past that no longer exists, carrying it with them into their future. How do you love someone like this? In my opinion, the only way to love someone so hurt and broken by their past is to love them unconditionally - without expectation.

I've done this recently. Admittedly, it's not easy. It's especially hard when you are able to see beyond the hardened shell the person has erected. I'm not special. I just see beyond what appears before my eyes.

Love unconditionally - no expectations of that love ever being returned or restored in that person for you.

The Universe Has Jokes too!

I thought some people were Ha Ha funny, it seems the Universe has jokes as well. Doing all I can to move forward, yet it seems I keep getting sucked back into the madness!!! What's the plan, man?

Happy, the new state of mind

I love meeting people, especially people I've met through Facebook. Today, I met a friend of Oliver's, now my friend. We spent a good portion of time reminiscing about our friend. I have good friends. Everyone has something. Everyone goes through something. It's how you react to their situation that makes the difference. I've learned throughout the years to keep calm. After going over the events of the last year, of which most of it's a blur, I came out ahead. All I know is I did the best I could to help my friend and his family. I also fell in and out of love for the first time in my life. I accomplished amazing things, just in the past two months alone; and I am blessed with awesome family and friends who were with me every step of the way.

I love it when people comment on some of the pictures I post. I posted one last year where so many people sent messages of congratulations and you look so happy...finally. Now, I am just happy for no reason. I'm good to everyone I encounter. I've learned to not overreact (zero to a hundred), and I let may things go. My life has changed for the better. Thank you.

Mustard, Relish, and Ketchup

Sometimes those three things are all you need to make you happy. What? How? When you're coming out of a serious funk where nothing seemed to go right and you're hanging by a thread, your only refuge...mustard, relish, and ketchup can save the day and restore the hope.

When I was a child, I used to eat mustard, relish, and ketchup sandwiches. Ewww, you think. Not so. They were my favorite next to popcorn! I had them in a time in my life where I was innocent, young, safe, and most importantly loved. I loved those sandwiches. When things seem out of my hands, the one thing I can always rely on...mustard, relish, and ketchup sandwiches.

Faux-Friendships

I had coffee with a dear friend this morning. It's nice catching up with friends you've been out of touch with for a while. I realized something. I keep a limited amount of people I call friends - I can actually count them on one hand, and amazingly only two of them are on facebook. We spoke about friendships in this faux-friend town. Real friendships are rare. Most people like to call themselves friends because they want something. At first I was sad that I had so few friends who cared about me, but after our conversation this morning, I realized how lucky I am to have more than the average amount of true friends! The statistic in ones lifetime is to have 2 true friends. I have five, and I haven't lived a lifetime. I am a good friend to many, yet the reciprocal is not true. People in Los Angeles are used that, those of us who've been here for a while. The new folks to Los Angeles undergo a total culture shock! Everyone is selfish to a certain extent, but here in LA it's almost criminal (if not) how selfish people are. This really is the town of "unworthy egos." Everyone wants to be heard, yet very few listen. I am no longer sad about only having 5 true friends. In fact, I am no longer sad about anything these days. I've very happy with the woman I am becoming. I've let go of the girl of the past. Thanks to those five.

Next Challenge starts in four days!!!! But there's more...

In Four days I will start my 30-day Arms Challenge. I've also decided to add another challenge and that is to take two weekends a month and go somewhere either alone or with someone. I love Santa Barbara, Temecula, San Diego, and Joshua Tree. Anyone want to join me? Here is sit having coffee in Santa Barbara on this beautiful and crisp morning posting from my ipad. I felt the need to get away and so after Trader Joe's this morning, I just kept going!

The arms challenge:

Have an awesome day everyone!!!

It's August and a Great Time for Change

I'm excited about moving on from my seemingly endless temp status to a permanent job outside of the entertainment industry! Kinda scary.

The weather has been perfect for hiking. So I put this group together and everyone has backed out! So I went to facebook to find more friends and sadly, those who live close don't feel their in shape enough to hike. Who knew I actually graduated from an inactive sedentary shlub to an active on-the-go woman!! Ya know what? I Love it!!!

I'm excited about the Breaking Bad marathon I'm holding on Sunday. It seems appropriate in celebration of my new job and position at...oh wait, I shouldn't say just yet.

Have a great weekend!!